What are you creating?

"You are essentially who you create yourself to be and all that occurs in your life is the result of your own making." ~ Quote by @sinistar22x2 on Instagram

I've known this for years now, but reading this exact quote this morning made me feel compelled to write a post about it.  It's so straight to the point, and so very true!  I've had quite a few clients these days who are unhappy with major aspects of their lives at the moment.  The good news is that you get to change it.  It's like this other quote I've seen floating around: "If you don't like where you are, move.  You are not a tree!" 

Do you like the person you are?  Do you like what's going on in your life?  If the answer is no to either of those questions, the solution is the same regardless... Work on yourself!

You don't realize how much power you really hold until you stop looking at things on the outside and do the work within. 


I'm a firm believer in the law of attraction, because I've seen it in action.  I experience it every day, and so do you, even if you don't realize.  Of course, if you don't like aspects of who you are, it's obvious that it's up to you to do the work and change these things.  But what about the situations that happen in your life?  What about the things you have no control over? (Or so you think).  How can working on yourself change anything?  Well here's the truth my dear.  You attract things (people, situations, opportunities) that match the vibration you are currently in.  Sometimes the vibration comes directly from you, and sometimes it can be your surroundings.  Let me give you a clear example.

Lets say you seem to be constantly living a life full of drama.  Some people seem to like it but lets assume you don't and want a better and more peaceful life for yourself.  How can working on yourself help with people and situations around you?  Simple.  First of all, look at your thoughts and the words you speak... Are you feeding into it?  Are you constantly speaking of that drama, thinking about it, focusing on it?  If so, change your mindset and focus on being positive, and on things that bring you peace.  The more you focus on peace, the more you will start attracting peace in your life.  Perhaps you are trying really hard to focus on positivity but situations keep arising, then you may need to look at who you surround yourself with.  If your environment is toxic, so will be your life! 

Your thoughts are constantly creating your reality.  And working on your thoughts really mean you're working on yourself.  Remember, you attract things at the level you are/think/speak/surround yourself. 

Four years ago, I was miserable and felt stuck.  But I wasn't stuck.  I was just scared to make the tough changes because it required to turn my life (the one of my family) upside down.  But I knew we all deserved better.  I worked on myself so much in these last four years, and it wasn't easy at times.  I had to change so many mindsets (and I still find more to work on), had to let go/distance myself of many people in my life, moved, etc.   But it was so worth it!  Little by little, my life changed in the most amazing ways.  I'm not going to lie and pretend it's all perfect, it's not.  There's still so many things that I want to improve on myself and my life, but I truly am grateful for how things are now and I see how far I've come.  And it IS beautiful!

Everything I am and what I have (aka where I'm at in life), is because of the work I've done on myself and the changes I've made.  And it all started with changing my thoughts. 

You are constantly in a state of creation. Every day, I choose to create love, peace, ease, abundance, joy, and much more.  What are YOU creating? 

Much Love,

Stephanie xx

Why it's good to ask for help

I grew up surrounded by very independent women.  My whole life, I was under the impression that independence equalled strong, which in turn, without anyone meaning to, taught me the opposite to be true as well: asking for help is weak.  

It wasn't until a few years ago, when I hit emotional rock bottom, that I started working on myself and realized I couldn't do it on my own.  I asked for help out of necessity.  I didn't have the tools I needed to help myself.  I took Reiki classes and learned how to work on myself as well as others.  I attended Reiki shares in order to get more in depth healing for myself as well.  I opened myself to connecting with the right people, asked questions and learned amazing things from powerful mentors.  I wasn't afraid to be vulnerable, break down and cry in front of others, or admit I wasn't in a good space.  Doing that allowed the right people to just be there and literally say "hey!  I know how to help!".  I learned it actually takes incredible strength to be vulnerable.  


It's amazing when you're committed to your growth, how the right people always show up at the right time!  I am careful who I let into my life.  I surround myself with likeminded people, true friends who have similar goals in growth, and those who I can learn from and exchange as well. Recently, I became friends with a wonderful woman who of course, just showed up in my life at the right moment.  She also happens to be a life coach.  I just started doing coaching sessions from her and wow it's been amazing!   I'm used to being on the other side of sessions, but I knew I would benefit greatly from what she has to offer.  

Funny enough, if you would have asked me a year ago about coaching, I would have assumed that the "great people out there" don't need coaching.  But after just a few sessions I realized something... Even coaches need coaching! lol.  Everyone needs a mentor, everyone needs someone to make them think, grow, shift past blocks and challenge them in new and positive ways... We all have something that can improve.    It's just the more we advance, the deeper we clear and the higher we go.  The growth never really ends.  But we all need someone.  We didn't come here to be on our own and do everything alone. We are born into families and have relationships of all kinds and on many levels throughout our entire lives.  It's ok to ask for help.  It makes you personally grow faster, reach your goals quicker, gives you perspectives you wouldn't have necessarily thought about on your own, opens and expands your mind in ways you never would have thought possible.  

Think of the business person who built an empire... They didn't get to the top and reach success on their own.  They had to seek help along the way (from a assistant, accountant, web designer, marketing specialist perhaps?), surrounded themselves with with people who had the right tools, created their own tribe and eventually reached the top with people who helped raise them up.  

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But it's not just about asking, allowing and receiving help.  Consider who YOU can help too in this life with the talents and knowledge you have!  Life is a balance of give and take, both are important, and necessary.  Just like it's not ok to just take all the time without giving, it's not ok to give ALL of yourself without ever receiving.  You can't get ahead that way.

So next time you find yourself in a rough space for any reason, stop, take a deep breath and ask someone for help.  You just might be surprised how amazingly quick things will shift! 

Much love,   

Stephanie xx