Why it's good to ask for help

I grew up surrounded by very independent women.  My whole life, I was under the impression that independence equalled strong, which in turn, without anyone meaning to, taught me the opposite to be true as well: asking for help is weak.  

It wasn't until a few years ago, when I hit emotional rock bottom, that I started working on myself and realized I couldn't do it on my own.  I asked for help out of necessity.  I didn't have the tools I needed to help myself.  I took Reiki classes and learned how to work on myself as well as others.  I attended Reiki shares in order to get more in depth healing for myself as well.  I opened myself to connecting with the right people, asked questions and learned amazing things from powerful mentors.  I wasn't afraid to be vulnerable, break down and cry in front of others, or admit I wasn't in a good space.  Doing that allowed the right people to just be there and literally say "hey!  I know how to help!".  I learned it actually takes incredible strength to be vulnerable.  


It's amazing when you're committed to your growth, how the right people always show up at the right time!  I am careful who I let into my life.  I surround myself with likeminded people, true friends who have similar goals in growth, and those who I can learn from and exchange as well. Recently, I became friends with a wonderful woman who of course, just showed up in my life at the right moment.  She also happens to be a life coach.  I just started doing coaching sessions from her and wow it's been amazing!   I'm used to being on the other side of sessions, but I knew I would benefit greatly from what she has to offer.  

Funny enough, if you would have asked me a year ago about coaching, I would have assumed that the "great people out there" don't need coaching.  But after just a few sessions I realized something... Even coaches need coaching! lol.  Everyone needs a mentor, everyone needs someone to make them think, grow, shift past blocks and challenge them in new and positive ways... We all have something that can improve.    It's just the more we advance, the deeper we clear and the higher we go.  The growth never really ends.  But we all need someone.  We didn't come here to be on our own and do everything alone. We are born into families and have relationships of all kinds and on many levels throughout our entire lives.  It's ok to ask for help.  It makes you personally grow faster, reach your goals quicker, gives you perspectives you wouldn't have necessarily thought about on your own, opens and expands your mind in ways you never would have thought possible.  

Think of the business person who built an empire... They didn't get to the top and reach success on their own.  They had to seek help along the way (from a assistant, accountant, web designer, marketing specialist perhaps?), surrounded themselves with with people who had the right tools, created their own tribe and eventually reached the top with people who helped raise them up.  

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But it's not just about asking, allowing and receiving help.  Consider who YOU can help too in this life with the talents and knowledge you have!  Life is a balance of give and take, both are important, and necessary.  Just like it's not ok to just take all the time without giving, it's not ok to give ALL of yourself without ever receiving.  You can't get ahead that way.

So next time you find yourself in a rough space for any reason, stop, take a deep breath and ask someone for help.  You just might be surprised how amazingly quick things will shift! 

Much love,   

Stephanie xx